Understanding True Confidence: A Psychologist’s Perspective
When most people think about building confidence, they often focus on boosting their self-esteem and thinking highly of themselves. However, from a psychologist’s perspective, true confidence is not about having an external shell where you constantly need to feel good about yourself or seek approval from others.
Confidence vs. Ego Protection
In reality, the need for this type of confidence is actually a protection mechanism driven by the ego. It stems from an inability to handle disapproval from others or even from yourself. The ego acts as a fragile shield, trying to prevent any injuries to your sense of self-worth.
Developing True Confidence
By working on yourself over time, you can reach a place where you no longer need these protection mechanisms. True confidence allows you to:
- 🌟 Show up authentically without the need for constant validation
- 🌟 Accept that sometimes things go well and sometimes they don’t, and that’s okay
- 🌟 Not rely on external outcomes to feel good about yourself
Diminishing the Ego’s Influence
When you find yourself seeking external validation or feeling down because something didn’t go as planned, it’s a sign that your ego needs some attention. By doing internal work and diminishing the ego’s influence, you can:
- 💪 Take action without getting stuck in overthinking
- 💪 Pursue your passions without being attached to the outcome
- 💪 Handle disapproval or lack of attention without it affecting your self-worth
Interesting Fact: Studies have shown that people with true confidence are more resilient, adaptable, and open to feedback. They don’t take criticism personally and use it as an opportunity for growth.
Embracing Your Authentic Self
True confidence allows you to embrace your authentic self without the need for constant external validation. It frees you from the fear of judgment and enables you to pursue your goals with a sense of inner peace and self-assurance.
Remember, whenever you feel the need for something external to validate you, it’s an invitation to work on your ego and focus on internal growth. By doing so, you’ll develop a more stable and authentic sense of confidence that isn’t dependent on others’ opinions or temporary successes.
Fun Fact: Confident people tend to have better relationships, as they are more secure in themselves and don’t rely on their partners for constant reassurance.
